Being an adult is hard! Especially when it comes to relationships! Romantic and friendships! But one thing can make these easier and that is knowing how to know who to trust. And even though trusting anyone is always risky, when you are aware of the…
Tag: self care
I had a great discussion with my class last week on several topics but one of them was Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs and someone made the comment that “it’s bullshit that if you don’t love yourself, you can’t love anyone else.” And I hear that,…
If you’re surrounded by toxic people or just negative Nancy’s, here are some tools for staying positive.
There’s always going to be someone who doesn’t get you, who doesn’t see all of the value you hold. And that’s ok. You don’t need their words of validation because they do not power your worth.
The words you speak/think to yourself on the other hand.. they do power your worth. What are you fueling yourself with? Are you letting your inner critic take over? If so, here are some ways you can fight back!
▪️Spend time alone. You just need to! I don’t care what you do while you’re alone just do it! You need time to be with yourself without any other voices but your own. It’s important!
▪️Gratitude— I will never get off my soapbox when it comes to gratitude!! The benefits are endless. I write down one thing I’m grateful for EVERYDAY! Sometimes it’s big, some times it’s teeny tiny, but it always shifts my attitude to a better place.
▪️Don’t take things personally. Always, always remember- everybody’s dealing with something but not everyone knows how to deal with their stuff in healthy ways.
▪️Find a healthy outlet. Whether it be reading, walking, boxing, or dance classes you need AT LEAST one healthy outlet that makes you happy and helps you escape the everyday routine.
It’s not easy to stay positive if you are in an environment where people are constantly putting you down. Even if you aren’t being “put down” having to spend a lot of time with people who are toxic to your positive mental health can be draining to say in the least.
You have to start taking better care of yourself though. If you don’t, at some point you will break. And nobody wants you to break.
To start getting help with negative self talk today, sign up for my mini course, “How to Get Rid of Your Bitchy Inner Critic” You should love yourself and you should tell yourself that every day!
Several months ago I posted about how I changed the way I journal to make it more enjoyable and meaningful. You can find that post here. Today I want to talk about the Benefits and Downfalls of Journaling. According to an article on PsychologyToday.com, “Outcome…
Let’s be honest with each other here, it’s hard making friends as an adult. Am I right? As adults we are much more judgmental, hesitant, and picky about our who we choose as our friends.
Our social circles tend to get smaller as we get older and our lives change. We don’t see the same people that we used to on a regular basis.
However research shows that connection is necessary for living a fulfilling life. We need friends that we can share our lives with to feel whole. I’m sure you have heard the statistics about women’s life expectancy being longer than men’s. This is partly because women are more social creatures. We’re more likely to have a network of friends and therefore more likely to..
If that doesn’t say something about how our friendships affect us, I don’t know what does!
So since it such an important aspect of our lives it’s something we should put more effort and intention into.
SO, I made a free 5 Day Course on Friendships! It includes:
- Characteristics of Healthy Friends
- 10 Tips for Being a Better Friend
- Friends & Setting Boundaries
- Healthy Conflict Resolution in Friendships
- 5 Tips to Strengthen Your Friendships
If you are interested in my free course just click here to sign up!
Everything You Need for Your Hospital Stay When You Deliver
Not sure what all you need for the hospital when you go into labor? Ive got a list that will tell you everything you need! Before I went into labor with Braden in August I spent SO much time scouring Pinterest and Mom groups for lists of what to take with me because I wanted to be over prepared. I ended up having to stay a few extra days as well so my husband had to make a few trips back home! So through my experience I created this awesome list of everything I couldn’t have lived without!
1.) Loose & Comfy PJs — After birth you can get out of that hospital gown and into your own clothes! I took a night gown (super cute and comfy one from Target as well as some oversized pajama pants I found on Amazon. You want to be comfortable so whichever of these you prefer or both like I did!
2.) Oversized underwear — If you are giving birth vaginally this is key! Get some cheap undies that are way too big! You’ll have to wear pads and ice packs so you will want something that allows this comfortably.
3.) Nursing bra &/or Tank Top — I got both of these but really didn’t use the tank top until I was home. (It was more tight fitting and I wasn’t as comfortable in it, so be conscious of size! However the bras were so helpful! (Also getting a gown that makes it easy for you to nurse is something to think about as well! Mine had a low neck and then buttoned up the chest so I could just unbutton to breastfeed.
4.) Phone Charger and Extension cord — Of course you can’t forget your phone charger and having an extension cord was so helpful because all of the outlets were too far away to reach the bed without! It just makes your life a little easier!!
5.) Pillow/Blanket — I took my own pillow because I’m picky and also a queen size blanket that I didn’t end up using but my mother did when she slept on the couch in the room with me and so did my husband so its nice to have for the people that are staying with you because that room gets COLD!
6.) DVD’s — I didn’t take any but really wish I would have and my husband forgot them when he made his trip back home! But if you have to be there for a while like I did (over 24 hours of labor) + 3 nights after delivery I was so tired of watching TV and it would have been nice to be able to just pop in a favorite movie.
7.) Toothbrush & toothpaste — Do I really need to explain?
8.) Hair ties — Obvious reasons right?
9.) Bedroom shoes — My feet were SO Swollen most of my pregnancy and for several days after delivery, so I got some bedroom shoes a size too big for the hospital. They want you to walk around pretty soon afterwards and you need something comfy to hobble around the hospital in!
10.) Yeti Cup (Or something like it) — That hospital ice is the BOMB and its the only the besides jello and popsicles that you can eat until you deliver! Plus the cups they give you are pretty small and require a lot more refills than a larger cup.
11.) Robe — This one was so important for me! I got a long robe from Amazon that I lived in! I wasn’t comfortable just being in my nightgown in front of visitors so throwing on my robe was super easy and comfortable! Plus I got a really pretty silk floral robe and it just made me feel good!
12.) Snacks — For your guests up until delivery and then for you afterwards! I was starving by the time Braden finally arrived and hadn’t eaten for over 24 hours!
13.) Headphones — for music during delivery or to listen to to help you go to sleep. Hospital rooms are hard to sleep in with nurses coming in and out but if you have your headphones you can drown it all out!
14.) Body wash — when you take a shower!! Duh!
15.) Shampoo & Conditioner or Dry shampoo
16.) A comfy loose outfit to go home in!
17.) Stool softener — If you are giving birth vaginally, you’ll thank me for this!
18.) Chapstick — Delivering a baby is intense and chapstick was key for me! All that breathing and pushing and everything! Your lips get really dry!
19.) Socks — One thing I left off the list above are socks! If you are anything like me, your feet will get cold! Fuzzy socks were a life savor!
20.) Positive attitude — Labor is scary but your perspective matters too! Stay positive and believe in yourself! You’re stronger than you realize!
Click here to download a printable version of the Hospital Bag Essentials Update