Tag: relationships

Bullshit! You can love others without loving yourself!

Bullshit! You can love others without loving yourself!

I had a great discussion with my class last week on several topics but one of them was Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs and someone made the comment that “it’s bullshit that if you don’t love yourself, you can’t love anyone else.” And I hear that,…

Improve the Quality of Your Friendships

Improve the Quality of Your Friendships

Improve the Quality of Your Friendships

Mommy Monday: Tiffany McLaughin

Mommy Monday: Tiffany McLaughin

Mommas/ Soon-to-be Mommas,

My name is Tiffany McLaughlin, I am 27 years old and have been married 2 years to my wonderful husband. I’m here to let you know have no fear your NICU baby will grow, and will be strong enough to hold their own!

Our daughter Paige was born 7-7-16 after I was induced due to preeclampsia. She was born at 37 weeks, and it was a wonderful experience being induced. I had the epidural after being in active labor for 4 hours. I thought all was great and she was perfect. I was wrong, her blood sugars were low(common with preeclampsia) and she was jaundice.

 

Paige was rushed to the NICU and I was rushed in to emergency DNC as I had hemorrhage while Paige was being taken care of with the nurses. That’s another story in itself but it makes recovery from natural birth so much harder.

Paige weighed 5lbs 12oz, 19 in. when she was born and she was our little fighter. She was pricked a women up every hour for blood test, and feeds. I didn’t get to be with her the first 12 hours and I hated every moment. I cried, I called my mom, I was an emotional wreck. Little did I know the strength she was working up to be a strong hanging with the rest of them baby. 10 days is all it took for her to tell the nurses, “I’m ready to go home.”

Paige today is 19 months, taller than most kids her age, but skinny as can be. She is a talker, a lover, and not much of a “cuddler.” She has been sleeping through the night since she was 3 months old, eating since 6 months. I hope to keep this a short burst to tell you moms know, it will be ok. Every story has a rough spot. I’m here to tell you there is good that comes from the bad. Moms be strong, look for support from your family and SO. You can do this. If you have questions or would like to know more into our story please feel free to reach out to me. Iselt91@gmail.com 

Or request to follow me on Instagram: @minniemommatiff

Your fellow Mom,
Tiffany McLaughlin

Mommy Mondays – Rachael Freeland

Mommy Mondays – Rachael Freeland

October 16, 2017 Today’s Mommy Monday post comes to you from Rachael Freeland! Rachel has a blog called Werifesteria: To Wander through the Forest in Search of Mystery. Rachel is from Melbourne, Australia originally, but is living in Amsterdam currently. Before Rachel became a mother…

Mommy Monday – Shannon Lusk

Mommy Monday – Shannon Lusk

The Smart Lioness’ – 1st MOMMY MONDAY!!! Introducing Shannon Allen Lusk Hi!  I’m Shannon.  I am a wife, Social Worker (with a degree from Auburn University), daughter, sister, and of course, proud mommy of a sweet and squishy little 6 month old, Lucy.   Hillary…

What Do You Mean.. “Unapologetically Me?”

What Do You Mean.. “Unapologetically Me?”

“Unapologetically Me”

What does it mean to be “unapologetically me?” That’s the question, I have had on my mind lately, the “way of living” I’m trying to describe to you, and myself. I know it when I see it! That’s for sure! When you think of people who are unapologetically themselves, who do you think of?

First person that comes to my mind is, Wendy Williams! I just love that woman! She is just completely herself, or she’s a damn good actress because she seems genuine AF to me!

Another badass lady that comes to my mind is Lucille Ball! Hell! One of my favorite quotes is from Lucy herself, “Love yourself first, and everything else falls into line.” And clearly, Lucille Ball had shit figured out! Now more than ever, is it important to remember this quote! So many people lose themselves in their partner, in their work, or into their problems, because we all, at least at some point in our lives, fail to follow this BASIC, BUT KEY RULE, of living a fulfilling and happy life!!

WHY? Why, Do we do this to ourselves?
  1. We think it’s our religious or Christian duty.

We think it’s our religious duty to “put others first, before ourselves,” or “make sacrifices.”  But God did not mean for us to do so at our expenses.  Become “one flesh” does not mean that you lose yourself in your husband, it means you make a life together, and you share an intimacy & bond that entwines your souls together, so you don’t have to lose yourself.  Your relationship is intimate not only sexually, but more importantly, emotionally.

2. We have damaged boundaries, or a lack of boundaries all together.

Our boundaries are our property lines, and what separates us, and what keeps us protected from other people. If you don’t have boundaries, it’s like being in a dark, dangerous alley at night and not expecting something bad to happen. Our boundaries keep us from being emotionally hurt or abused. Our boundaries are those lines that we lay down with everyone in our life, the people that love us and respect our boundaries have no problem dealing with this, however the people in your life that have boundary issues, will not handle it so smoothly.

3. We don’t value ourself, or know our own worth.

If you are the same woman that doesn’t take care of herself, because “she’s trying to be a good Christian,” did you forget that being a Christian means you are a child of God, born in his image. There’s worth in simply being that, girl! OPEN YOUR EYES! God made you to be some thing completely and totally unique, but you can’t see it because you’re too busy counting the wrinkles that keep popping up, or too busy pretending you are happy and fulfilled to realize you have totally lost your worth, your respect for yourself.

 

If you are guilty of one or all three of the above reasons I listed, PLEASE consider signing up for my NEW Program beginning October 1st. It is an 8 week interactive program that not only teaches you how to make a lifestyle change but helps provides everything you need to commit to living a life that’s yours!!

Do you feel like you base your happiness and worth on what other people think of you? 

Do you put everyone else’s feelings as priorities, but not your own? 

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The Smart Lioness Challenges You to — DARE TO ROAR!!

The Smart Lioness Challenges You to — DARE TO ROAR!!

      Lioness Ladies!!! How are you doing on this lovely Sunday morning?? (Whatever time it is, where you are). Today’s blog post I write with total excitement because my new challenge Dare to Roar starts tomorrow!! This Challenge is FREE & will be…

Help Me Develop My Next Product!

Help Me Develop My Next Product!

Hello my Lovely Lionesses!   I have been laying low on the blog lately because I have been working on some new products to provide you gals! But I need your help! I’m having writer’s block except for creating new products, not really writing! YOU…

What are the Characteristics of a Healthy Relationship?

What are the Characteristics of a Healthy Relationship?

Do you question if your relationship is one that is healthy for you? Has your partner shown “red flags” while you have been together?

We all deserve to be happy, fulfilled, and in healthy relationships. Are you not quite sure if your own relationship is healthy? Complete my Healthy Relationship Questionnaire to assess if your romantic relationship is healthy or not. The directions for how to score the questionnaire are included.

The most common form of an unhealthy relationship is one that is based on power & control vs respect and equality.  Being constantly ridiculed or put down, feeling as though you are constantly walking on eggshells, or worse — pushing, hitting, or slapping are all forms of abuse and if you are someone who is experiencing this type of behavior or have in the past, YOU ARE NOT ALONE. This is why this subject is so near and dear to my heart. I have been in your very spot, thinking.. “what? abuse? How the f*%k did I let it get this far?! How did I get here?!”

My journey has been one with many plot twists, to say in the least. But I wouldn’t be where I am today without my past experiences and even though some of them are tough to remember, (memories come flooding back as I’m writing this) memories that make me cringe, when my mind starts to go in that direction. I have to stop myself and bring myself back to the here and now. I use that energy to put into my work in helping other women become educated on what a healthy relationship is, how to set boundaries, and how to build her confidence to that of a Lioness!

 

Don’t get me wrong, I’m no where near perfect! It’s a constant effort I put forth to keep my self confidence on the higher end of the self confidence spectrum but, I do the work and it continues to build. It’s still a process and some days my Inner Lioness is fully Unleashed and some days she’s no where to be found.  And I’m ok with that, I’m not perfect, and there is no need in my trying. There are so many different and better ways to use that energy than on the negatives.

 

You too can get through whatever struggles you are dealing with!! Change your thinking, and quit making things worse on yourself. Take your mind from the dark places and into the light. Its warmer in the light!

Click here to take the Healthy Relationship Questionnaire

If you have further questions after taking this questionnaire please feel free to contact me on Facebook with your questions and concerns. I am happy to discuss your score with you, in fact, I would LOVE to discuss your score with you! So I encourage you to contact me once you have completed the questionnaire!

You can contact me by clicking here!

If you don’t want to talk to me, there are other resources. If you are in the Dothan, Alabama area, The Exchange Center for Child Abuse Prevention provides free counseling to anyone who has experienced abuse at any point in their life.

Or click here to go to Domestic Violence National Hotline Website