Top 4 YouTube Channels You Need to Be Following for Baby Brain Development So I was going to post this for “Mommy Monday” this past Monday but #momlife got in the way and I wasn’t able to finish it until today! Better late than never…
I think we have all had a moment or experience where we have felt like we are “less than” other people in our lives and that’s ok as long as we don’t get stuck in that mindset. .
If we do get stuck in this mindset it spills out into every other part of our lives. You might have trouble standing up for yourself, or feel hopeless, or are becoming increasingly critical on yourself. You might choose to befriend or fall in love with the WRONG people.
And even though you have tried, you just can’t figure out what you’re doing wrong.
You may be suffering but can’t figure out what is causing it. And you might be dealing with one or all of the following issues:
- lack of motivation
- difficultly concentrating or making decisions
- feelings of failure or worthlessness
- low self esteem
- Self blame
And I can understand and relate to your pain, I was emotionally abused too. And now I’m stronger for it and you can be too. You just have to deal with it and work on you and I can help!
As you very well know, we are all unique and we all have our own journeys we’re going on. And the last thing I want to do or suggest is that we should assign labels to ourselves because I completely disagree with that. BUT as it relates to emotional abuse I do think it’s important to talk about the different types of emotionally abused women.
We must remember though that these are kind of like categories of types of women who are emotionally abused and that we only use categories to help us to organize general information so that it’s easier for us to understand. Furthermore, to heal we must first understand what hurt us, how we ended up getting hurt, why we got into the situation that hurt us, and then how to avoid getting hurt like this again in the future. The following is a list of the general types of emotionally abused women:
- The Selfless woman
- The Pleaser
- The Sinner
- The Codependent
- The Drama Junkie
- The Victim or Martyr
I will be doing a follow up post tomorrow with more information on each of the categories I discussed above, so make sure you check back to see that!
Source: The Emotionally Abused Woman: Overcoming Destructive Patterns and Reclaiming Yourself, Beverly Engel, M.F.C.C.
Let’s be honest with each other here, it’s hard making friends as an adult. Am I right? As adults we are much more judgmental, hesitant, and picky about our who we choose as our friends.
Our social circles tend to get smaller as we get older and our lives change. We don’t see the same people that we used to on a regular basis.
However research shows that connection is necessary for living a fulfilling life. We need friends that we can share our lives with to feel whole. I’m sure you have heard the statistics about women’s life expectancy being longer than men’s. This is partly because women are more social creatures. We’re more likely to have a network of friends and therefore more likely to..
If that doesn’t say something about how our friendships affect us, I don’t know what does!
So since it such an important aspect of our lives it’s something we should put more effort and intention into.
SO, I made a free 5 Day Course on Friendships! It includes:
- Characteristics of Healthy Friends
- 10 Tips for Being a Better Friend
- Friends & Setting Boundaries
- Healthy Conflict Resolution in Friendships
- 5 Tips to Strengthen Your Friendships
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Happy Monday Lionesses! I recently watched a Ted Talk (linked at the bottom) about the transition to motherhood and how there really isn’t a name for this transition. She actually compared it to becoming a teenager because of all the hormone changes and the mood…
“Mom guilt, it’s like my arch nemesis. It’s constantly present, and never ceasing to exist! I had mom guilt before Fitz was even born, and still, to this day, it is present. I have just now learned how to ignore unnecessary guilt and let it “roll off my shoulders.”
Before my son was born, there would be days I would forget to take my prenatal vitamin, or I ate crap for several days. I thought to myself, what a disservice to my unborn child! I can’t even remember to take a vitamin or eat my veggies that is beneficial to his development. When Fitz was born, I always asked myself, am I rocking him or holding him long enough? Am I using the right bottles? Does he need more gas medicine? It was always never enough, or I always felt like I was doing something wrong. When Fitz was 4 months old, I went back to work, and my mom guilt quickly escalated! I constantly thought I wasn’t spending enough time with him, and I was missing his milestones. My milk supply dropped when I started back work, and I felt terrible that I couldn’t provide him with enough milk.
To this day, I have guilt when disciplining Fitz, and he is 21 months old. I always think, am I being too harsh? Am I not disciplining him enough? If Fitz eats fast food for several days in a row, he will be fine, he gets to eat food he thinks taste way better than my vegetables. If I discipline him, I know I a teaching him right from wrong because I love him and want him to be a good person. If I don’t give him that piece of cake right before bed and he has a fit, I can’t feel guilty about not giving in to him. I can’t feel guilty about every little thing that I may or may not be doing right. I always second guess myself when it comes to raising Fitz. This is all new to me and I am slowly learning.
There is one thing I do know, and that is Fitz knows he is loved, and he will always be safe. Nothing is ever going to be perfect, but it can be close to it. It can be your kind of perfect. Mom guilt lingers and stays. However, I leaned to let things go and not let it take over. All mommies, and future mommies. You are awesome! Don’t ever compare yourself to anyone and think you should be doing more. You be you, momma, and love that baby, and that is all they will ever need. Your love. Give your mom guilt a kick to curb and relax. You are doing perfect!”
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