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Unapologetically Me: Fearless & Flawed

Unapologetically Me: Fearless & Flawed

Women and worthiness is one of my hot button topics. I can get really “passionate” when it comes to any debate on this topic, ask any of my close friends. But I get passionate because it’s important to me and it’s important because I used…

FREE 3 Day Simple Self Confidence Booster

FREE 3 Day Simple Self Confidence Booster

Earlier this week I did a FREE 3 day confidence boosting activity in my good friend Saje’s Facebook Group hand in my stories on Instagram. It was a super simple, yet effective way of giving ourselves a little boost of confidence that sometimes, we could…

Top 4 YouTube Channels for Baby Brain Development

Top 4 YouTube Channels for Baby Brain Development

Top 4 YouTube Channels You Need to Be Following for Baby Brain Development

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Me and Braden. He’s 7 months old now!

So I was going to post this for “Mommy Monday” this past Monday but #momlife got in the way and I wasn’t able to finish it until today! Better late than never right? Mommy Monday on Wednesday.. here we go!

I don’t really talk about development much here, I want to change that because it’s a huge interest/specialty of mine. My Bachelors degree is in Human Development & Family Studies. Here’s a snippet from Auburn’s (my Alma Mater) website:

“What makes a family work? How do children develop? What is a healthy marriage? What do teenagers need to succeed academically, personally, emotionally? These are some of the questions we strive to answer in the Department of Human Development and Family Studies (HDFS). “

HDFS Mission:

“The mission of the Department of Human Development and Family Studies (HDFS) at Auburn University is to generate, disseminate, and apply scientific knowledge of human, family, and community development. We focus on understanding and supporting optimal development across the lifespan using multidisciplinary approaches and cutting edge methodologies. Our core areas include the intersections of individuals, families, and communities, with a special focus on relationships and the biopsychosocial underpinnings of healthy development and well-being. We are committed to creating and applying knowledge to prevention and intervention efforts with the goal of assisting individuals, families, and communities in reaching their full potential.

So anyway enough about that! On to the YouTube channels! (Side note: I’m not affiliated with or receiving any kind of payment for this post! I genuinely love these channels!)

1.) Hey Bear

“A stimulating world of high contrast scenes designed to engage & delight your baby. These videos are a great way to encourage eye coordination & focus in babies.”

Research has shown that baby’s brain is doing some major development during the first year of life. To encourage brain development we need to engage all of their senses.

This channel is for sure my favorite because they have tons of different videos to choose from so Baby doesn’t get bored and Mom doesn’t go crazy watching the same thing over and over!

2.) Tiny Adventures TV

“Visual and auditory stimulation for babies that can help calm, soothe, entertain as well as influence your child’s brain development.”

It’s really hard to rate these two as one being better than the other. They are similar in the content they provide but still give you and baby unique videos to learn from! This channel gives you different types of videos though– some that are high contrast and more stimulating and then others that are more soothing and relaxing. I like to turn on relaxing videos for Braden if– 1) I can’t find any other way to get him to stop crying (last resort) 2) In the morning when he wakes up and I’m fixing his breakfast and need him occupied for a minute or 3) when he wakes up from a nap and I need to finish whatever I was doing (probably laundry).

3.) Baby Einstein

“Experience the world of Baby Einstein & spark your baby’s curiosity through discovering language, exploring the arts, & embarking on adventures alongside wild animals. Nurture musical appreciation to the tunes of lullabies, nursery rhymes, & Baby Einstein classics like Baby Bach, Baby Mozart, Baby Noah, & Baby MacDonald. Need parenting inspiration? Take notes from DIY tutorials, monthly milestone videos, & families just like you.”

So I HAVE to first say that the whole claim about the Baby Einstein Videos causing baby to grow to be smarter has been proven to be false. (Click here for the info/research) But we also know that real human interaction is what does teach our children so as with most everything in life these videos are to be watched in moderation and to not be substituted for actual human interaction.

Otherwise these videos are very different than the previous two I discussed and just something different for baby to watch and you can get some ideas for different ways to interact with your baby from them.

4.) Sparkabilities

“Smart fun for babies and toddlers! You and your child can enjoy entertaining and educational clips of Sparkabilities.”

So this channel is just a preview of DVDs that you can order but it’s different and Braden seems to really like the videos when I show him these. They are different from all of the others I discussed though! They kind of combine them all though in that it’s high contrasting colors and shapes but add in the educational “this is a square,” and you get Sparkabilities!

As I said above it’s important to not rely on video too much for keeping your child occupied. It can be much easier for you right now but in the long run it’s not going to be worth it! Your child much prefers interacting with you! However, in moderation these can be great for cognitive development by creating more pathways in the brain which in turn causes more neural connections which causes quicker responses in our brain.

One last bonus video my son absolutely loves: Click here 

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One more cuz’ he’s cute!
Emotionally Abused Women

Emotionally Abused Women

Sunday I talked about emotional abuse and the effects it can have on us, without us even realizing it. In that post I also talked about the different categories or types of women that are or have been emotionally abused. And I want to reiterate…

Don’t Get Stuck in the “Less Than” Mindset

Don’t Get Stuck in the “Less Than” Mindset

I think we have all had a moment or experience where we have felt like we are “less than” other people in our lives and that’s ok as long as we don’t get stuck in that mindset. . If we do get stuck in this…

So I did a thing..

So I did a thing..

Beer Fear and Cheer Podcast
Me and my Brother

 

So I did a thing and started a Podcast with my brother! I absolutely LOVE podcasts! You can find a list of my favorites here.

And since I got addicted to podcasts about a year or so ago I wanted to start my own, but I wasn’t sure what I wanted my podcast to be about! So I thought about it for a long time and finally came to a decision.

And I’m sure you’re thinking, “of course you would do a podcast on self love or mental health or something like that right?”

Actually, no. I decided I wanted this project to be one that is a form of self care for me. I want to talk about something I love, something I know, and something that will be beneficial for other people, even if it’s just for a laugh!

Thats why I decided on a true crime/comedy podcast! Now.. I know you’re thinking, “man that seems pretty off brand for you.” And yeah I guess you’re right! BUT my “brand” is being yourself and doing what makes you happy!

Why true crime/comedy?

Well I love true crime and I love psychology and I like to talk about both of them!

I chose to do this with my brother because we have always been super close and I think we’re hilarious together haha???? But in all honesty, my brother Rich is a lot funnier than I am!

Beer Fear and Cheer Podcast Logo

So we named it Beer, Fear, & Cheer because we get together, drink some beer (or wine) and tell each other stories and try to make each other laugh. We talk about a true crime story, ghost stories, or a story that has to do with one of our fears– our last episode was based on one of my biggest fears which is the water or the ocean. And we discussed the true story behind the movie Open Water. Then when I’m done telling my story Rich tells a story that will make me (and the listener) laugh! We try to cover all of the bases! ????

I have really enjoyed doing the podcast and I’m looking forward to doing more episodes this year. If true crime is your thing too I would love for you to check it out! Just click here to listen! If you don’t have Apple you can find us on Spotify or just about anywhere else you listen to podcasts! If you would also be so kind as to leave us a review we would both be SO grateful! It really helps us out when people leave us reviews! You can also like us/follow us on:

Facebook and join our Facebook group!!

& Twitter

If you have a ghost story or funny/embarrassing story you want to share, we will read it on the podcast in an upcoming episode! Just email it to us at beerfearandcheer@gmail.com We would love to hear from you!!

Enough about me! What is something you would like to do but you are hesitant because it’s not what everyone else thinks you should do. Tell me in the comments!

Mental Health: Beliefs & Emotions

Mental Health: Beliefs & Emotions

  Not very long ago I did a few posts on my Instagram about our beliefs and emotions and how the two are connected, and why being aware of them is so important. So I decided to do a blog post as well in case…

Improve the Quality of Your Friendships

Improve the Quality of Your Friendships

Improve the Quality of Your Friendships

Mommy Monday: Casey Kelley

Mommy Monday: Casey Kelley

To the Mama Who Let Herself Go

 

I can see the searching and quizzical look on the old friend’s face when I say hello in the grocery store. They’re attempting to place who I am. I feel my stomach drop and my heart pang when I realize they don’t recognize me now. I quickly throw them a life preserver, “It’s Casey! We went to (fill in the blank) together.” We both feel relief and they immediately try to disguise our embarrassment with a comment like, “Oh I didn’t recognize you with those glasses.” I’m grateful for their attempt to hide their disappointment, but I can imagine what they’re thinking. “She sure has let herself go.” They wouldn’t be wrong in thinking this, let me tell you why…

In typical fashion, I’m going to be really honest. I have had many false idols in my life. The image of perfection, youth and physical beauty have been mine for quite some time. They have been (and sometimes still are) my religion, my God. I learned at a very young age that physical beauty was valued in our society. If I could keep my physical body in a static state, that looks something like: thin, toned, tanned, perky, long shiny hair, blemish free, stretch mark free, wrinkle free, grey hair free, carefree — then I would never have to feel unworthy of love. So, I spent most of my time grooming, working out, shopping for the most flattering clothes and accessories, tanning, bleaching, waxing, painting — worshipping the idol of beauty and youth. I attended the church of celebrity gossip magazines and television shows. I took my worship very seriously. My thoughts about these things were all consuming, this was my religion and I was devout.

Then, the most terribly gracious thing happened, I became a mother on three separate occasions. My body was the home for three little souls for nine months each. My breasts and body nourished, and continues to nourish, three tiny humans. My beauty sleep became broken and instead was filled with nurturing brand new people. My hair became thinner and shorter because I no longer had time to spend hours each day grooming it. My nails no longer were manicured, my skin no longer stretch mark free. My taut tummy was replaced with something looser. I traded my sexy clothes for big t-shirts and yoga pants. My shiny idol was beginning to crack and crumble and in its absence was more love and beauty than I could have ever imagined.

Giving up my religion was not easy. The idol was the sacrificial lamb. She was the sacrifice. I absolutely let her go. I let her die, so true unconditional love could be born. The love that remains is so raw, so real, humbling, bring-you-to-your-knees-beautiful. It’s sacrificing sleep to hold a sick baby, it’s wearing pajamas until 6pm because the children needed you all day, it’s watching them learn new things, it’s in listening to them when they’re afraid or heartbroken, it’s in having long talks with your oldest child and realizing how amazing they are, it’s in the early mornings and endless chores.

 

Life has ripped every false idol from my hands. It has showed me what I think I need to be worthy and so graciously reminded me that I already am. So, when you think, “she has let herself go,” you have no idea how accurate you are. I did let her go and would do it all over again if given the chance.

 

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Mommy Monday: My Transition into Motherhood

Mommy Monday: My Transition into Motherhood

Happy Monday Lionesses! I recently watched a Ted Talk (linked at the bottom) about the transition to motherhood and how there really isn’t a name for this transition. She actually compared it to becoming a teenager because of all the hormone changes and the mood…