What’s with the name?
What lead me to want to help and empower women was the fact that I was in an abusive relationship for four years. It took me time to even realize I was being abused believe it or not. He wasn’t hitting me, but his words were killing me one sentence at a time. It completely changed me and who I was. After I finally got out of the relationship I didn’t even know who I was anymore. How could I? He told me who I was. Now I had the ability to think for myself and, I didn’t know how to!
However, I had some amazingly supportive friends (the ones I hadn’t completely isolated myself from) that helped get me back to reality. And was in school at Auburn for Human Development and Family studies, and learned so much from my classes. But I also participated in therapy and starting dealing with “my stuff.” I learned about myself, figured out my values, and who I really was after I washed off all of that toxic layer of shit I had allowed myself to believe. And in doing so I was able to begin feeling like a real human again, and with time and work on myself with the help of multiple therapists and friends I turned my nightmare of a past into something I can use to help others. If I can help other women avoid getting into a relationship like I did, or if they were unable to avoid it and have been in a toxic relationship or are currently in a toxic relationship then I want to help them get out and get their identities back. Because it gets lost somewhere along the way.
That’s kind of where “The Smart Lioness” comes from, its kind of like my vision of the end result of the transformation from a woman who is lost and hurt into this beautiful, intelligent, and powerful lioness who is capable of anything. Its more of a symbol of hope or of that goal that you seek but never actually completely reach because its a personal development goal and hopefully personal development and growth never ends. To stay truly mentally healthy we should always be learning and growing.
So with that being said, I’m constantly working on “unleashing my inner lioness” and want to encourage other women to do the same. You may not believe that she’s in there, but she is, and with time and effort you will gradually start to believe it too.
No matter what you have gone through in your past, you don’t have to stay there, you can get “unstuck” and move forward, and you too CAN be that Lioness you so badly want to be.
Whatever your view of being a “lioness” is, I can give you the genuine support and guidance you need to be successful in your journey.