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I just wanted to give a little update on what’s been going on and what I have planned for the blog and with The Smart Lioness in general!
This past week my 12 week course Unapologetically Me: Fearless & Flawed finished up! I think it went well but I will be making some changes to it so stay tuned for more updates on what happens with that! Because it can only get BETTER!!
I also have several new, smaller courses I’ve been working on and a few of them are available now. If you’re interested in what I have available scroll to the bottom of this post and I will have them listed with details.
As for the blog, I’m going to be posting a monthly tv show recommendation/review. I just love tv shows and love talking about them and sharing with others what I find so this is mostly just for fun for me! And if I’m not having fun, what the hell am I doing here??
In the future I will be posting this on the first Tuesday of the month but will start that schedule in October!
I hope to be bringing you more Mommy Monday stories, so if you have a story you would like to have featured here on the blog let me know in the comments or send me your story to firstname.lastname@example.org
I also want to know what you want to see more of, so I’m providing you with stuff you actually want to see! Tell me in the comments, I love getting your feedback!
Otherwise, expect more info, tools, tips, and guides on self esteem, self confidence, inner critic, worthiness, and more!
Courses Currently Available:
Self Esteem Queen — 5 Steps to Higher Self Esteem — FREE!!
How to Get Rid of Your Bitchy Inner Critic — A 6 Step Guide to rid of your shitty self talk! You feel the way you think. Let’s make that a good thing and change the way you think!
Get Ya Stress in Check — Identify your triggers for stress, prioritize your sources of stress, & create new coping tools for dealing with your stress. Also includes 40 scientifically proven ways to deal with stress.
Know Your Why — What is Your ‘Why’ behind everything that you do?? When we know our ‘Why’ it empowers us to take action and makes the path that we need to take CLEAR!
Besties — How to choose healthy friends, set boundaries in your friendships, improve the quality of your friendships, & be a better friend to others.
High Quality Habits — How to create habits that are enjoyable and will last!
Dare to Roar — With this mini course, you can take a baby step forward into the process of refocusing on you. It will remind you of the basics. Challenge you to scratch beneath the surface and reawaken the lioness within.
Several months ago I posted about how I changed the way I journal to make it more enjoyable and meaningful. You can find that post here.
Today I want to talk about the Benefits and Downfalls of Journaling. According to an article on PsychologyToday.com, “Outcome research on the benefits of journaling shows mixed results. Sometimes keeping a journal of your thoughts, feelings, and experiences helps, but often it makes things worse. In general it is likely to hurt if it tries to help you “know yourself” in isolation and helps if it leads to greater understanding and behavior change in your interactions with others.”
“Know yourself in isolation” is an interesting way to describe it, I think. But I think it means that failing to connect with other people, and get feedback etc, is important as well. If you only look to yourself for improvement, solutions, and opportunities for growth, you’re missing out on a whole lot!
The article goes on to give a list of benefits and drawbacks of journaling according to research:
Journaling can have a positive effect on your behavior and well being if it:
- Makes you step back and evaluate your thoughts, emotions, and behavior
- Explores solutions
- Brings your emotions and motivations into alignment with your deepest values
- Converts negative energy into positive creativity and growth
- Lowers your emotional reactivity to others
- Increases tolerance of ambiguity, ambivalence, and unpredictability, which are part of normal living
- Helps you see other people’s perspectives alongside your own
- Makes you feel more humane
- Helps you take a definite course of action.
Journaling can have a negative effect on your behavior and well being if it:
- Makes you live too much in your head
- Makes you a passive observer of your life (thinking about how you’ll record it instead of experiencing what is happening)
- Makes you self-obsessed
- Becomes a vehicle of blame instead of solutions
- Wallows in negative things that have happened to you.
Sticking to writing in a journal can be really difficult too, which is why you need to make it enjoyable, and a part of your daily routine. My friends and I were talking about journaling this past weekend, and it came up that sometimes it can be hard to know what to write about. Especially if you are writing everyday! So one of my friends told us that he Grandmother always kept a journal and once told her, “If you don’t know what to say, just write about the weather.” You know what the weather was like so you really don’t have to think about what to say, you can just write it. And if nothing else flows out after that, then maybe that’s enough some days.
I really loved that idea. It gives you a way to stay accountable in a way, because you don’t ever have the excuse that you don’t know what to write.
I think another good rule for journaling is that if you only do one sentence on the days you have trouble figuring out what to write, that’s ok too. Sometimes I even will write down a quote that I really like when I have nothing else to write.
It’s important to remember that journaling is for YOU. Drop whatever preconceived ideas or beliefs about journaling that you have and create new ones! There are no RULES! You get to make up your own!
Do you journal?
Tell me in the comments– Do you journal? If yes, how do you make it enjoyable for yourself? Do you draw pictures? Make lists? Tell me everything!
Interested in trying out my online journaling program? Let me know your email address in the comments or message me on Facebook, and I will send you more information.
Source: The Good and the Bad of Journaling: Use it as a tool to improve or appreciate, Steven Stosny, Ph.D., Psychology Today
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Top 4 YouTube Channels You Need to Be Following for Baby Brain Development
So I was going to post this for “Mommy Monday” this past Monday but #momlife got in the way and I wasn’t able to finish it until today! Better late than never right? Mommy Monday on Wednesday.. here we go!
I don’t really talk about development much here, I want to change that because it’s a huge interest/specialty of mine. My Bachelors degree is in Human Development & Family Studies. Here’s a snippet from Auburn’s (my Alma Mater) website:
“What makes a family work? How do children develop? What is a healthy marriage? What do teenagers need to succeed academically, personally, emotionally? These are some of the questions we strive to answer in the Department of Human Development and Family Studies (HDFS). “
“The mission of the Department of Human Development and Family Studies (HDFS) at Auburn University is to generate, disseminate, and apply scientific knowledge of human, family, and community development. We focus on understanding and supporting optimal development across the lifespan using multidisciplinary approaches and cutting edge methodologies. Our core areas include the intersections of individuals, families, and communities, with a special focus on relationships and the biopsychosocial underpinnings of healthy development and well-being. We are committed to creating and applying knowledge to prevention and intervention efforts with the goal of assisting individuals, families, and communities in reaching their full potential.“
So anyway enough about that! On to the YouTube channels! (Side note: I’m not affiliated with or receiving any kind of payment for this post! I genuinely love these channels!)
1.) Hey Bear
“A stimulating world of high contrast scenes designed to engage & delight your baby. These videos are a great way to encourage eye coordination & focus in babies.”
Research has shown that baby’s brain is doing some major development during the first year of life. To encourage brain development we need to engage all of their senses.
This channel is for sure my favorite because they have tons of different videos to choose from so Baby doesn’t get bored and Mom doesn’t go crazy watching the same thing over and over!
“Visual and auditory stimulation for babies that can help calm, soothe, entertain as well as influence your child’s brain development.”
It’s really hard to rate these two as one being better than the other. They are similar in the content they provide but still give you and baby unique videos to learn from! This channel gives you different types of videos though– some that are high contrast and more stimulating and then others that are more soothing and relaxing. I like to turn on relaxing videos for Braden if– 1) I can’t find any other way to get him to stop crying (last resort) 2) In the morning when he wakes up and I’m fixing his breakfast and need him occupied for a minute or 3) when he wakes up from a nap and I need to finish whatever I was doing (probably laundry).
3.) Baby Einstein
“Experience the world of Baby Einstein & spark your baby’s curiosity through discovering language, exploring the arts, & embarking on adventures alongside wild animals. Nurture musical appreciation to the tunes of lullabies, nursery rhymes, & Baby Einstein classics like Baby Bach, Baby Mozart, Baby Noah, & Baby MacDonald. Need parenting inspiration? Take notes from DIY tutorials, monthly milestone videos, & families just like you.”
So I HAVE to first say that the whole claim about the Baby Einstein Videos causing baby to grow to be smarter has been proven to be false. (Click here for the info/research) But we also know that real human interaction is what does teach our children so as with most everything in life these videos are to be watched in moderation and to not be substituted for actual human interaction.
Otherwise these videos are very different than the previous two I discussed and just something different for baby to watch and you can get some ideas for different ways to interact with your baby from them.
“Smart fun for babies and toddlers! You and your child can enjoy entertaining and educational clips of Sparkabilities.”
So this channel is just a preview of DVDs that you can order but it’s different and Braden seems to really like the videos when I show him these. They are different from all of the others I discussed though! They kind of combine them all though in that it’s high contrasting colors and shapes but add in the educational “this is a square,” and you get Sparkabilities!
As I said above it’s important to not rely on video too much for keeping your child occupied. It can be much easier for you right now but in the long run it’s not going to be worth it! Your child much prefers interacting with you! However, in moderation these can be great for cognitive development by creating more pathways in the brain which in turn causes more neural connections which causes quicker responses in our brain.
One last bonus video my son absolutely loves: Click here